Divorce is quite an ugly word. Unfortunately, not all marriages are built to last and as far as the ones that aren’t are concerned, divorce is the only logical solution. Sometimes, even though a couple has worked very hard on resolving their issues, there comes a point when getting a divorce becomes unavoidable.
While there are a lot of couples that are able to reconcile and put their differences aside so as to have a long and happy relationship, there are some that just can’t. You could consider consulting self-help books and can even consider couples therapy to try and get over your problems. But if divorce seems to be inevitable it is very important that you think of the effect it is going to have on your children. There are several psychological effects of divorce on children and here are three of the most significant ones:
1. Even on rare occasions when children actually are supportive of their parents getting a divorce, they will still feel insecure about their future and how life is going to be for them after the divorce. This insecurity will continue throughout the period of divorce and that is why it is important that if you do get divorced to ensure that it doesn’t stretch out over a long period of time. Your children will feel like their world is falling apart, they need their parents to be there for them at this time even if they aren’t there for each other.
2. It is understandable that every child would desire that their parents don’t split at all but if they are divorcing then most children would just want the whole ordeal to be over. They just want things to go back to how they used to be. Even if their parents aren’t talking to each other, there is no reason for them to not talk with their children is there? The best thing you can do in such a situation is to try and get everything back to normal as soon as possible.
3. As a parent, you need to understand that kids are quite resilient and can survive a lot. With just a little help from counseling, you will find that the ill effects of your divorce can be reduced to almost nothing. While it is not possible for you to make them forget the pain the felt, the sooner you get over with the entire thing, the faster they will be able to recover from it.
Once again, I would like to remind you to try any and everything you possibly can to save your marriage. If not for yourself then at least for your children. There is a reason you & your spouse decided to get married, why not think of that reason and see where it gets you. But if all else fails, get through your divorce as quickly as possible and save your child from unnecessary suffering.